Who you are; what you think, what you believe, the actions you have taken, the people you surround yourself with, your education and your grit have all played a role in getting you to where you are today. Your DESTINY to this point in your life.

But you want more. Right? You are asking yourself questions.... What is my purpose?  Am I living the life of my dreams? Am I living up to my true potential? What is my truth? What is my contribution to the world? What is my deepest driving desire? 

"Who" you are today will not get you to where you want to go - your destiny. What is holding you back? YOU. 

What I mean by something is" holding you back"  - we are holding onto some belief - or fear - or weakness - or personality strength - this is something that we need to identify and bring into our consciousness. When we know where we want to go (Our Big Dream) and then we are aware of this "belief" that we are holding onto  - we can go to work on how to move forward...

Take a few minutes today and quiet your mind. Go to a place that will make you feel happy & peaceful. Close your eyes and meditate. Be quiet and allow your still small voice to guide you. Do you really know your deepest driving desire - your soul's purpose for living this life? Be truthful and real about what is holding you back from moving towards your life's purpose. What do you need to let go of so you can follow the map to your dream!!

Enjoy the journey!!!

XOXOXOXO

​Shelly

The story of Roger Bannister is an inspirational one. For many years it was widely believed to be impossible for a human to run a mile in under four minutes. In fact, for many years, it was believed that the four-minute mile was a physical barrier that no man could break without causing significant damage to the runner's health. the achievement of a four-minute mile seemed beyond human possibility, like climbing Mount Everest or walking on the moon.

Roger Bannister had a dream that he could break the four-minute mile. He set a goal to run the mile in less than four minutes. He trained and worked hard. On May 6, 1954, Roger Bannister was the first man to ever run the mile in less than four minutes.

So what happened to the physical barrier that prevented humans from running the four-minute mile? Was there a sudden leap in human evolution? No. It was the change in thinking that made the difference. Bannister had shown that breaking the four-minute mile was possible. Often the barriers we perceived are only barriers in our own minds. Previous runners had been held back by their beliefs and mindsets. Once that barrier was broken, other runners saw that it was possible. Sixteen runners went on to run a four-minute mile that same year!

Remind yourself that you are committed to pursuing your goals and dreams. You believe that you will achieve them. Now, you must be prepared to pay the price and put in massive action. Roger Bannister trained hard to achieve success --are you willing to do what it takes to make things happen?

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” ~ Melody Beattie

Often times we get so busy with chasing after the things we want, after the things that are somewhere out there, that we forget to enjoy the present moment, we forget to be happy. You hear people all the time saying: Oh, I will be happy when I will get this and that, when I will get there, when I will do this and that… and when those things do happen, they go on to planning the next thing and the next thing and forget to enjoy the things they achieved so far, the things they longed for. By doing so people also forget to enjoy what they already have, they forget to be happy. Don’t let that be you.
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
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Realize that now, in this moment you have more than enough. It’s okay to have dreams, it’s okay to aspire to grow, to learn, to evolve and to achieve big things but it’s also important to celebrate yourself, to celebrate your accomplishments, to celebrate the present moment and to celebrate your life. With gratitude comes happiness and with happiness comes more gratitude.
Here is a really beautiful gratitude poem which I’m sure you would love...

Be Thankful“Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire,
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you don’t know something
For it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations
Because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge
Because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes
They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you’re tired and weary
Because it means you’ve made a difference.
It is easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are
also thankful for the setbacks.

GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles
and they can become your blessings.”  ~ Author Unknown

Thank you for reading my blog....
XOXOXOXO

Shelly

Have you ever noticed that most people live with a do-have-be perspective of life? Meaning that they believe that if they do the right things, they will then have what they desire, and only then will they become the person who deserves those things. Basically saying when I have "success" then I will be "happy".  

Do you know people who have set goals for themselves such as getting a specific kind of relationship? So they set out and do what they believe will help them find the "perfect" mate. They do things like work on looking good, sign up for internet dating sites, and follow all the dating advice they can in an effort to have the relationship that they desire. They believe that this specific relationship will allow then to be happy. Many people take it beyond just being happy and attach a whole list of things that they will be when they finally have that perfect relationship - they will be successful, loving, loyal, open, compassionate, a good lover, and a good partner...

But is that really true? 

What would happen if you shifted the paradigm to be-do-have? By being happy, successful, loving, loyal, open, compassionate, a good lover, and a good partner, you will then begin doing things differently. This will allow you to attract into your life the same and you will have everything you dreamed of! 

It is a different way of thinking, basically you become the person who will take the action to attract everything you desire!

Be Do Have
XOXOXO

​Shelly

In a few hours I will be attending the Memorial Service of my dearest friend, Patty Dresser. I feel like I've been living in the Twighlite Zone this past week. It's way too soon to see the Patty Dresser Obituary. I was looking forward to seeing Patty Dresser party invitations, maybe a wedding invitation, birth announcements of her grandchildren from her, itineraries of all the trips she would take, the book she would write, the invention she would create, an email, the next text...

I've experiences so many emotions and cried so many tears, I have no idea what to expect this afternoon or tomorrow. I do know that I have thought about her every minute of every day since I learned of her tragic death. And as of right this minute, I am choosing to feel the fullness of life and love as I walk through this day and remember Patty. Our hearts are connected even though the physical presence is absent. I do feel the love and I will hold the love and switch the pain to joy as I reminisce. I am choosing to hold her in Love and I will be the Light that will be a beacon for God's Love and my best friend, and now guardian angel Patty. 

I love you Patty, you will be forever in my heart. Thank you for the difference you made in my life and may I honor you by keeping your memory alive. And by living my new motto inspired by you; carpe diem - I will seize today, its the only one I have!! XOXO

​Shelly

Today, October 15, 2016 is the day I picked to start a 52 day journey into my book. I am doing this journey, now in honor of one of my very best friends, Patty Dresser. Patty's life was tragically taken from her and from us, the people who loved her, this past week. I have been in shock and struggling to comprehend this unbelievable loss. I simply can't believe that I can't just call her up and chat about our day - we talked almost everyday. We talked about our dreams, passions, men, everyday struggles, business, mostly the future. I'm going to miss so much her words of support and encouragement, miss laughing together, making plans, talking about everything or even nothing. She was a true friend in every sense of the word. Now, I have my future without her in it, feels very lonely...

Our friendship we treasured. I was in Indiana with Patty the summer of 2011 when truly everything in both of our lives were in transition.  I was in the beginning stages of writing this book that summer at the same time I was looking for my next business move (she & I created Innovative Network Connections). And what most people didn't know, is it was also the same time I was struggling with making the decision to divorce. She listened, commiserated, supported and listened some more.... I could not have made it through that time with her. 

I love Patty like a sister, she was my sister - my soul sister. I know she is happily at peace on her next assignment and I know she will be with me everyday in the memories we made. I'm grateful for those wonderful memories. I feel like a part of me is missing. I miss her so much...

So, Patty, you are gone but never forgotten as I know you will be with me as I pursue the dreams in my heart because you are in my heart too. 

I love you, Sis.
xoxoxo
​Shelly

52 Days...
1. Dream
2. Purpose
3. Potential
4. Commitment
5. Goal Setting
6. Thoughts
7. Belief Systems
8. Attitude
9. Spirituality
10. Self Talk
11. Courage
12. Love
13. Relationships
14. Forgiveness
15. Trust
16. Abundance
17. Focus
18. Action
19. Knowledge
20. Life Skills
21. Decision Making
22. Negotiation
23. Renewed Thinking
24. Momentum
25. Confidence
26. Personality Types
27. Peak Performance
28. Patience
29. Expectation
30. Gratitude
31. Win Friends
32. Influence People
33. Take Ownership
34. Get Motivated
35. Motivation
36. Begin at the End
37. Enthusiasm
38. Money
39. Contribution
40. Pillars of Good Health
41. Leadership
42. Qualities of a Leader
43. Emotional Intelligence
44. EQ Skills
45. Procrastination
46. Discipline
47. Innovation
48. Passion
49. Philosophy
50. Your WHY
51. Significance
52. Celebrate Success

Last week I had an unfortunate experience with food poisoning... I was lying in my bed wondering if I would make it through the agony, when I came across a link on Facebook to watch Dr. Wayne Dyers movie The Shift - it was being offered for free until October 1 (sorry if you missed free, please watch it anyway!!) I watched it and I'm telling you I experienced a SHIFT! The movie really made me think about some things in my life....

I always liked Dr. Dyer's teachings and I was sad when he passed away.  A couple of days later, I was feeling better (thank you, God) and I met with my friend, Maria Hubbuch. I shared with her my "shift" experience and a we chatted about a few things I was struggling with... She mentioned that she had an amazing opportunity to attend several of Wayne Dyer's teaching seminars. He had found that after writing a book, he actually then "lived" the book. He really studied and put into practice everything he had just written in his book! That is really cool!

So, yes, you guessed it. That is exactly what I am going to do! I'm going to dive into my book This Is Your Year to Design & Live the Life of Your Dreams And I would LOVE for you to join me!!!! I NEED the accountability. If I KNOW you are with me, then I will be more motivated and challenged....

But here is what I'm going to do. I'm going to do the 365 page book (it was set up to read 1 page per day, divided into 52 "chapters") I'm going to read 1 "chapter" (7 pages) per day! I'm ready to change my life in the next 52 days!!! Want to join me?????

If you have my book, great - you can start today! If you don't have the book, then please order it today - I will sign it and ship it to you ASAP and you can catch up! Let's officially start together on October 15!