Understanding your own personality style is a great place to start to begin to understand how to best communicate with others. Human behavior is complicated, but a simple behavior matrix designed to quickly pick up a few clues to better understand your style and relate to others can begin your awareness.
The process of identifying behavior styles is simple when you become "others" focused and practice listening to the people you are dealing with. You can contemplate two questions: 1) Is the person formal or informal in the way he or she dresses, behaves, speaks and acts? 2) Is the person dominant or easy-going in his or her style and mannerisms, focus, appearance, expressions, how he or she behaves under stress, etc.?
With this bit of information, you can begin to understand how to best relate to this person.
Formal and Dominant -- Controller/Driver
Formal and Easy-going -- Promoter/Expressive
Informal and Dominant -- Analytical/Deliberate
Informal and Easy-going -- Supporter/Amiable
Interesting enough, if you have 100 people in a room, asked them these questions then have everyone go to a corner of the room within their style - the room would have almost an equal number in each corner. This is why it is SO important to understand the "style" of person you are dealing with. Think about it... if you go around only speaking to everyone in your own personal "style" you may be miscommunicating with 75% of the people you deal with!!!
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Ready to start this New Year with focus?
One of the best ways to get clarity is to choose a word, ONE word to focus on, to dive into, to be your theme for the year.
In 2016, I chose LOVE to be that word.
I’ve spent the last 12 months really exploring what love means to me. I asked:
And now it’s time for me to choose a new word.
Here are 3 Ways to Help You Tune into Your Word for 2017
Get quiet and simply ask: What is my word for 2017? Is there something I could benefit from focusing on?
Here are a few words I have chosen in the past: trust, faith, peace, dream, balance...
2. Use A Book
If you’ve asked and nothing comes to you, you can always try this cool trick.
Grab a book, any book, off the shelf and close your eyes. Think abot your word for the year and then randomly open the book. See where your eye lands and what it reveals.
3. Meditate On It
Once a word comes to you, try it on. Settle into the energy of that word.
Usually, when I feel excited and afraid, then I know I'm onto something BIG!
Have fun with this and see where it takes you.
So, I picked my word: JOY! Here’s to a ridiculously amazing 2017!
You can spot them easily in any group. They have that special "something" that sets them apart. What is it? A sense of direction--an assurance that they know where they're going. An awareness of their own abilities. Sincerity. An air of past successes. They have instinct to make eye contact and use body language. In a word, what they have is confidence...
Confidence is taking your current situation--whatever obstacles you are facing, whatever limitaiton that may slow you down, whatever chronic condition you may live with, whatever has stolen your dreams, whatever factors in life that tend to push you under--admitting you don't like it, and never saying, "I can't cope."
Confidence means having the ability to stand up to any test. You were born for greatness. Confidence is knowing that I will do something great with my life. Confidence is the sense that you can do somehting beyond the ordinary. You have a seed of greatness inside of you--unique to you. Dream big dreams and think big thoughts.
What makes you feel confident?
"Enthusiasm is the energy and force that builds literal momentum of the human soul and mind." ~ Bryan H. McGill
Newton's Law -- The scientific formula for momentum:
M x V = P
Mass (M) x Velocity (V) = Momentum (P)
Let's first define momentum. Momentum is impetus, force, thrust; it is the energy source that drives something else. It is like an avalanche that builds in magnitude, speed, and potential as it gushes down the slope.
How many people even realize that momentum is a natural law, a universal principle, that exists and operates in our lives whether we believe it or not?
The incredible thinkg about momentum is that once you understand it and how it applies to your life and personal growth, your chances of success go way up. If you can align your choices, thoughts, and actions with the universal principle -- the natural law of momentum--your success rate will go through the roof!
As with all natural laws, though, you can either operate in ways where they serve you--or break you. Remember, principles are not biased; they do not break--we can only break ourselves against them.
Think about this in sports - which team usually wins the game? The best team or the team that has the momentum?
Go for it!
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let us down probably will. You'll have your heart broken, and you'll break others' hearts. You'll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall in love with them, and you'll cry because time is flying by.....
So, take too many pictures, laugh to much, forgive freely, and love like you've never been hurt. Life comes with no guarantees, no tme outs, and no second chances. You just have to live life to the fullest, tell someone what they mean to you and tell someone off; speak out, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone's hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, and smile until your face hurts. Don't be afraid to take chances or fall in love, and most of all, live in the moment, because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
Q. What do world hunger and bad customer service have in common?
A. The secret to solving them both is empathy and innovation.
Empathy and innovation seem like an unlikely pairing, but together, they're the secret to solving just about everything.
Here's why. You have to care about a problem before you're motivated to solve it. Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone because his wife was deaf and he wanted to help those who couldn't hear. Empathy for his wife ingnited his innovation.
Empathy is about putting your own persepective on pause so that you can experience how the world looks throgh the eyes of another. With this skill, we then express our values to align with their neeeds, while innovation is a function of new ideas, risk taking and problem soving to serve that need.
So how do you kick start the empathy/innovation cycle? Simple: take a walk in another's shoes.
We tend to think of empathy as something that softens us. But that's not true. Empathy empowers us. Because when you see how the world looks to someone else, you don't diminish your own persepective, you expand it.
You can't be innovative if the only perspective you see is your own. Empathy & innovation--the magic duo that can solve anything!!
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