I love you is arguably one of the most overused and under-appreciated phrases. These words have so much power, yet we don't think through the impact of this phrase before we say it. Many people use this phrase as a tool to gain access to certain areas in life. Sadly, after they get what they want, they leave others feeling taken for granted or treated poorly -- and the relationship is lost.
Why does this happen? Because trust is broken. The words I love you have the power to gain access, but they do not have the power to keep you at the point of your desire. Trust can maintain a relationship through many difficult challenges in business and personal relationships. You must know how to trust.
The capacity to trust others and yourself and the wisdom to know when to do so is a powerful attribute that enables you to live an extraordinary life. Love can overlook many imperfections. Trust does not. Trust demands perfection. Unlike love, trust must be earned.
What is trust? To trust someone is to rely on the character, ability, and word of that person. What do the words I trust you mean? We may trust our children to come home by a curfew and not to do illegal drugs. But we wouldn't trust a child to make financial decisions for our business. Trust is item-specific. So I trust you is an inaccurate and misleading statement.
Trust is conditional and circumstantial. We don't really trust a person, we trust a person's judgement for a situation. But I do know, that without trust, it is certainly difficult to completely love that same person....
I trust that you will have a fabulous day!!! : )
Relationships are the key to making almost anything happen. They are the foundation to the quality of our lives to the the results we get.
Giving is the universal law that says what you put out, you will get back -- but don't expect it to always come back from the original source. But do give freely and with love.
Here is a simple analogy that helps to put it in persepective...
Imagine being in a sleeping bag in a log cabin and it's snowing outside. the air around yo uis really cold, and you can see your breath as you peer out. You realize it is so cold because there is no fire in the wood stove.
You look around and notice there is no firewood in the cabin. It is snowing outside, and it is so cold in the cabin you can't will yourself to get up out of your sleeping bag. You try to make a deal with the stove - "Warm me up, and then I will gladly go outside and get some wood."
Sound crazy? We do this frequently in our relationships: "Spend more time with me (stove, warm me up), and I will show more love to you (I'll get some wood)." The other person is thinking, "Become more loving to me, and I will spend more time with you." : )
Relationships need to be cultivated like a garden. Don't neglect the people you care about. Spend your time on what is most important -- building relationships should be at the top of your list.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Galatians 5:22
How do you see yourself? How do you look at the obstacles in your way? If we feel we are nothing and have nothing to give, it will be hard to accomplish much in life. We will probably shrink back in fear from every challenge.
Faith is being sure of things we hope for and knowing that something is real even if we do not see it. First, you must imagine yourself living your dream life and make the decision to pursue your goals and dreams. Next, you must believe in yourself and have the faith that you are already equipped with everything you need to succeed. Now it is time to take action!
What is it that we must really pursue? Love, joy, and peace. Love is the greatest thing in the world and should be the main focus in everything! When we do all things in love, we will find joy in life and have peace in all we do.
When we learn to enjoy where we are on the way to were we are going with love in our hearts and joy on our face - we will be unafraid to step out and try new things!
Enjoy the journey!!!
What is holding you back from pursuing your dream? What's holding ME back from pursuing my dreams? FEAR! False Evidence Appearing Real!
Courage is the ability to overcome fear. The definition of the word fear: From the Greek phobos, meaning "fear" or "morbid fear"; a distressing negative sensation induced by a perceived threat. It is a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a a specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of danger.
Fear is basically the ability to recognize danger and flee from it or confront it, also known as the fight or flight response. We are not born with fear, it is a learned emotional reaction. Some of our fears are brought on by others and some by our own past experiences. Either way, fear is what holds us back from success! So what are you afraid of?
Failure, success, rejection, pain, looking bad, what others think... just a few of the most obvious fears that will paralyze us if we let them! If we waited until we were no longer afraid before we try do do something we've never done before, we probably wouldn't accomplish much! Successful people know that they need to face their fears with courage and take action despite the fear. You can learn to "do it afraid."
Think about your past successes... You know that you have experienced the most thrilling times of your life stepping outside of your comfort zone! Think about the times you have taken that exhilarating ride on a roller coaster or went skydiving or bungee jumping or even asked someone out on a date. Were you afraid? YES! Were you glad you did it? YES!
Cultivating Courage will give you the necessary grit to make the decision to pursue your dreams. It will put you in a position to be afraid, and excited at the same time! That's when you know you are on to something BIG - like jumping out of an airplane - excited & scared then exhilarated when you jump and then OH so happy when you land on the ground!!!
1,2,3 JUMP towards your BIG DREAM! I am!!!
Your goals become the road map by which you navigate the direction of your life. Too often people focus exclusively on one area of their life at the sacrifice of every other area.
Be aware of where you are in all areas of your life to check to see if you are directing your life in a balanced manner. Areas to keep in mind include physical, financial, business, lifestyle, mental, spiritual, family, and relationships.
What good will achieving financial and professional goals be without the health to enjoy it? The key is to be sure you are giving appropriate attention and setting worthy goals in all of the important areas of your life. True achievement and life fulfillment comes when you are happily pursuing success at home, in the marketplace and in the community. How will you create and live a healthy lifestyle physically, emotionally, intellectually, financially, relationally, and spiritually?
Take a few moments every day and write in a journal. Write down your goals and dreams. Add to it daily. Write down how it would make you feel to actually be living the life of your dreams... FABULOUS!
Live you dream....
Attitude is everything. Your attitude will influence the way you perceive the world and the way the world perceives you.
The good new is, we all have a choice. We can choose an inner dialogue of positive and self-motivation, or we can choose one of self-defeat and self-pity. It’s a power we all have. We will experience hard times, hurt feelings, heartache, and physical and emotional pain. The key is to realize it’s not what happens to you that matters; it’s how you choose to respond to what happens that really matters.
Your mind is an amazing computer is programmed by you. You can choose whether the software installed is productive or unproductive. Your inner dialogue is the software that programs your attitude, which determines how you present yourself to the world around you. Good in, good out… Think of every situation you encounter as a reflection of your own attitude.
The loudest most influential voice, which is with you all the time, is your own inner voice. It can be optimistic or pessimistic. It can wear you down or cheer you on. You control the sender and the receiver, but only if you consciously take responsibility for and control over your inner conversation. Think about bringing the “unconscious” into your conscious thoughts to adjust your attitude.
Habitual bad attitudes are often the product of past experiences and events. Common causes include stress, fear, resentment, anger and an inability to handle change. It takes personal development to examine the roots of a negative attitude, but the rewards of adjusting ourselves can last a lifetime.
Take the time to notice your attitude and make a shift…
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