It's not easy to take full responsibly for the not-so-good things that happen in life... However, if we do take responsibility for our life up to this point, then the good news is we then know we can create the life of our dreams! Anything is possible!!!

My very first video blog!!! 

Understanding your own personality style is a great place to start to begin to understand how to best communicate with others. Human behavior is complicated, but a simple behavior matrix designed to quickly pick up a few clues to better understand your style and relate to others can begin your awareness.

The process of identifying behavior styles is simple when you become "others"  focused and practice listening to the people you are dealing with. You can contemplate two questions: 1) Is the person formal or informal in the way he or she dresses, behaves, speaks and acts? 2) Is the person dominant or easy-going in his or her style and mannerisms, focus, appearance, expressions, how he or she behaves under stress, etc.? 

With this bit of information, you can begin to understand how to best relate to this person.

Formal and Dominant -- Controller/Driver
Formal and Easy-going -- Promoter/Expressive
Informal and Dominant -- Analytical/Deliberate
Informal and Easy-going -- Supporter/Amiable

Interesting enough, if you have 100 people in a room, asked them these questions then have everyone go to a corner of the room within their style - the room would have almost an equal number in each corner. This is why it is SO important to understand the "style" of person you are dealing with. Think about it... if you go around only speaking to everyone in your own personal "style" you may be miscommunicating with 75% of the people you deal with!!! 

Take an online personality test today...  the one below is quick & easy....

Have FUN!

XOXO

Shelly

Ready to start this New Year with focus?

One of the best ways to get clarity is to choose a word, ONE word to focus on, to dive into, to be your theme for the year.

In 2016, I chose LOVE to be that word.

I’ve spent the last 12 months really exploring what love means to me. I asked:

• How do I allow myself to give and receive love?

• Where am I limiting myself in love?

• How can I do all things with more love?

Through this process, I learned a lot about myself. Where I hold back, where I get stuck, where I feel afraid. Through a deeper relationship with my word, LOVE, it’s helped me open up more, relax more and allow myself to feel safe, comfortable and happy to let in all the abundance, happiness, opportunities and change that has come my way this year.

And now it’s time for me to choose a new word.

Here are 3 Ways to Help You Tune into Your Word for 2017
1. Ask
Get quiet and simply ask: What is my word for 2017? Is there something I could benefit from focusing on?
Here are a few words I have chosen in the past: trust, faith, peace, dream, balance...

2. Use A Book
If you’ve asked and nothing comes to you, you can always try this cool trick.
Grab a book, any book, off the shelf and close your eyes. Think abot your word for the year and then randomly open the book. See where your eye lands and what it reveals.

3. Meditate On It
Once a word comes to you, try it on. Settle into the energy of that word.

• How does it feel?

• Is there an opportunity for learning and growth?

• Is this where you need to go in 2017?
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If the answers feel affirming, you’re on the right track. Don’t be dismayed if you feel scared. That’s often a pre-requisite to change.

Usually, when I feel excited and afraid, then I know I'm onto something BIG!

Have fun with this and see where it takes you.

So, I picked my word: JOY! Here’s to a ridiculously amazing 2017!

XOXO

Shelly